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36岁的邹老师在未进婚姻围城时，已与丈夫矛盾重重，婚后更是为琐事烦扰不休。丈夫因为收入较高把她视作“弱势人群”，以冷暴力相对。两地分居的她想结束这段婚姻，但又怕因为自己的经济劣势，最终失去儿子……

　　结婚时彼此了解不深

　　我与丈夫是高中同学，但毕业很久，才在一起谈恋爱。当时我心目中理想的人选不是他，但自从通过其他同学约出来，我们重新见了面，他就发了疯似的追我。不到一年，我想自己年龄已经不小，就同意了。所以彼此了解并不是很深，也不是很默契的那种。未婚时我们就有很多矛盾，只是因为偷吃了禁果，觉得自己都这样了，才勉强去办了结婚证。

　　结婚那年我27岁，第二年就怀孕，生下了儿子。婚后的矛盾，大多是在怀孕时产生的。那时我大着肚子，快要临盆了，他叫婆婆来照顾我。一些小纠纷慢慢引发了大矛盾。比如用洗衣机洗被单，就为能不能往里加进衣服这件小事，我们有了争执，最后他嫌我嗦，动手打了我，把我推倒在地，那种怨恨直到今天还没有消除。我在医院剖腹，每天看到别的产妇都有丈夫呵护，而我的丈夫，他一次都没来医院陪伴我，我的心跌进了低谷。

　　他不去医院的原因是认为我太娇，不肯顺产，宁愿多花钱，也要医生剖腹。那时我们都是代课老师，生活拮据，要问我妈妈借两千元钱，才能解决住院费和初生婴儿需要的其它费用，他觉得压力很大。后来还钱的时候，他只还给我妈一千，他对我说：“儿子你也有份，一人还一半吧。”

　　另外他还说了一句很伤人的话，说儿子也不知道是谁的！从那时开始，他就提出离婚，一直至今，也没有停止这种诉求。

　　矛盾日渐升级

　　2000年底，他才转成正式老师，收入比我好很多，所以变得更骄横、更不讲理了。有一次学校发钱，我一早去排队领取，到最后财会跟我说：“昨晚你先生已经把你那份也领走了。”

　　回家后我质问他，他说钱就应该由他来管，因为他付出比我多。我抗议了两句，他就从床上跳起来说：“再也无法跟你这种人过了，本来我想过年两边父母都给点钱的，你太计较了，我们离婚！”我认为他就是要把我的钱充“公”，也要尊重我，让我知道，免得我在外面闹笑话呀。此外我们实行了财政的彻底分离，同一屋檐下，我们各花各的钱，各睡各的床。

　　隔年我为了转正和深造，自己掏钱去买了一台电脑回来学习，但他一天到晚用电脑来玩游戏和上网跟人聊天，我却要为他每月付几百元网费。最令我觉得难以忍受的是，他在软件上装那种“木偶人”来意淫，而在现实生活中，他完全疏离我，再也不愿意碰我。World of Warcraft Gold  sypcliff

　　在他的冷暴力下，我苦苦支撑了几年。而他则越发嚣张专横，不但不把我当妻子，不亲近，还动手打我。作为一个中学老师，他没有一般知识分子的修养，多次参赌“***”。我说他，他就拳脚相向，为此当地妇联还调解过。

　　为了儿子左右为难

　　熬到儿子7岁，我觉得是时候分开了，去咨询当地一个做法官的朋友。他说我因为未转正，收入不如他稳定，离婚就意味着我有可能会失去孩子的抚养权。我在这个家庭中，因为经济的弱势已饱受欺凌，如果分开，也会因为这个理由失去孩子。我觉得更委屈，更不能接受了。2004年底，实在无法面对现实生活的我离开老家，来到深圳，在一家民办中学当老师。一为逃避痛苦的婚姻，二为挣钱养儿子，我不断地挣钱，希望等有了好的生活，到时就可以向法院申请让我去抚养儿子，我就把儿子接过来。

　　现在，儿子跟他一起生活，偶尔也去外婆家小住一段时间。我每月都准时寄钱回去，是为了证明我有尽母亲的责任抚养儿子，证明我是拥有这种能力的。但没想到，丈夫没经过我的同意，私自收养了他表哥的女儿，虽然没有办手续，但已接回家，让她和我儿子一起生活，两个孩子由他妈妈一块儿带着。我觉得只要我们一天还没离婚，我依旧还有权表决的，他这样做算不算侵犯了我的权利呢？

　　这样不幸福的婚姻我内心绝不留恋，我留恋的是自己的儿子，我想通过自己的能力，让他来深圳，过好的生活，接受好的教育。但至今一直没离，主要是怕自己不是公办的正式老师，失去了儿子的抚养权。2006我的爱   2006

　　我们分居的时间不觉已进入第二年，我怕他单方面提出离婚，抢走了心爱的儿子。春节我会回老家，一放假我就回去看孩子，但我不知道怎样处理这段极不愉快的婚姻，以什么样的方式尽快结束，又以什么样的方法能让我留住儿子。所以，这个年我会过得很惶恐。(作者：邓燕婷)

我的淘宝小店开张了：擦鞋机，耳塞，防辐射衣服，除湿机，加湿器，洗眼器

What classes are available in World of Warcraft?
The classes in the World of Warcraft are Warriors, Mages, Druids, Hunters, Warlocks, Priests, Paladins, Rogues, and Shamans. Please visit the Classes page for more information.2006

Have all the classes been announced?
Yes, we have announced all the classes that will be available in World of Warcraft at launch. However, we are also discussing ways for characters to evolve their classes through specialization, which will help differentiate them from others of the same class. 2006

What classes can dual wield?
Rogues, Warriors, and Hunters can all learn to dual wield.

Are there any non-combat or "pacifist" classes that can gain levels from healing wounds, curing disease, "buffing," or by providing any other type of assistances to other players? 2006
No.

Are there any sub-classes in the game?
There are no sub-classes, per se, in the game. However, players of the same class can differentiate themselves by choosing to specialize in three different trees of talents. A priest, for example, has access to talents in the holy, restoration, and shadow trees. One priest could become a "shadow" priest by specializing in shadow talents, while another could become a "holy" priest by focusing on holy talents. All classes can specialize through talents. 2006

What classes have the power to bring someone back from the dead?
Priests, Shaman, Paladins, Druids, and Warlocks all have the power to bring someone back from the dead. Their strength in doing so varies. 2006

Which classes can heal?
The classes that have the natural ability to heal are as follows:

• Priest
• Druid
• Shaman
• Paladin
• Warlock (themselves and their pets)
• Hunter (their pets)

Because Paladins need to use a skill to wield swords, will they be able to get their sword skill as high as their hammer skill?
Yes.

When a Warrior fights, will he just stand there swinging a sword or will he have combat moves?
There are currently six to eight combat moves per stance with multiple stances available for Warriors.

Can Warriors solo?
Yes, all classes will have the ability to solo, including warriors.2006

Can Rogues use two-handed weapons?
No, but they can dual wield.

Are Hunters the only class that can use rifles?
No. Warriors and Rogues can train in rifles and many other classes have other types of ranged attacks at their disposal.

Will the Druid be able to avoid obstacles like mountains when morphed into "flying" models?
This was a considered option, but the design team decided it would be too powerful of an ability.

As a shapeshifter, what forms can a Druid take?
The Druid can shapeshift into bear, cat forms, aquatic, and travel forms.

Can Druids fight in their morphed forms?
Yes, although some are better at fighting than others. The bear and cat forms are designed for battle, while the aquatic and travel forms are meant for traveling.

Really an interesting word. What does it mean? Now first of all do not get concerned that we are crossing the realm of the spiritual here. While the word “abide” has definite & specific meanings in Christian circles the concept of the word can still be applied to other things which is what we shall do.  2006

ABIDE: To withstand; to continue to be sure or firm; to endure; to sustain; to submit to; to bear patiently; to tolerate; to dwell or sojourn.

Kind of reminds me of the mental discipline we have to apply for those of us who believe in the financial virtues of gold. I was listening to CNBC on TV a little bit this morning and couldn't help but notice their response to the gold price. Here is a financial product that has risen from the low 250s an ounce to very close to 500 dollars an ounce. 2006

So, is there any one among the mainstream financial community yet paying attention or providing serious commentary as to these facts? No, not really. Instead, we hear a few words of ridicule claiming gold as the stupidest investment & that is about all. But hang in there because a little ways down & we will show you how gold is gaining respect & attention among real investors & folks in general who have a serious desire to make real money. But let's get back to our “word” of the week. 2006

What does it mean to “abide?”

One meaning is “to withstand.” And that is what we do if we believe in gold as an investment. We “withstand” all the negative criticism from mainstream WallStreet & form our own objective analysis based on the REAL facts! 2006

I like - “to continue to be sure or firm.” If you are foolish & demented enough to believe in the economic valuation of gold you have to remain sure & firm in your convictions as the mainstream WallStreet elite laughs at your chosen investment vehicle.

When we abide in something we “submit” to those principals that make up its foundation. Wow! Is that ever a dirty word today, because who in today's society wishes to submit in humility to anyone or anything?

And how about this definition, “to bear patiently?” I know all of us are waiting for our gold investments to rise, but are we waiting patiently? Whether patiently or not we still have to stand by our convictions & wait - whether patiently or not.

How about, “to tolerate?” We definitely tolerate the inevitable cyclical highs & lows as the gold price marches forward don't we? 2006

Now this last meaning has to be the best yet. Abide means also “to dwell or sojourn.” And where do we dwell & spend our sojourn? When we invest & abide in gold we dwell & sojourn in the peace that comes when making a wise & conservative financial decision. Never forget that purchasing gold investments is like purchasing an insurance policy. And who today can afford NOT to have investment insurance?

We dwell in the peace & historical fact that gold historically has acted as a counter balance to a deteriorating stock portfolio when a crash in the markets comes. The Depression of the 1930s saw gold companies' stock valuations rise tremendously. What price can we afford not to pay to dwell & sojourn in peace?

You know – I get tired often of being repetitive & seemingly saying the same thing over & over. And I am not one to pull up a bunch of graphs to act as filler to add space to an article. But my continued goal does remain to make a point. And I suppose to simply state the point I wish to get across is to say simply to consider your common tool shed. 2006

And you may not have a tool shed & instead live in a condo. But I'll bet you still have one drawer in your kitchen dedicated to “odds & ends.” And among these odds & ends is the hammer you keep for nailing picture nails in the wall. Let's stop here just a minute & examine that ole' hammer collecting dust in that kitchen drawer.

“Hammers are one of those products that have been used continuously throughout history, and have evolved only slightly since they built the pyramids. THE HAMMER MAINTAINS ITS VALUE EVEN IF IT SITS IN THE STORE WAREHOUSE FOR A LONG TIME.” Dr. Gene Huang, PhD, World Trade Center, Chief Economist, FedEx Corp, 6-12-2003 2006

Just because that hammer sits for a long while collecting dust does not diminish its value. And gold will always retain its value even when collecting dust on a museum shelf or resting deep under the earth awaiting discovery. Gold has value because it continues to be recognized as money & that remains a fact that will never change.

This really is what gold is all about.

Gold is not some sacred relic we worship upon a high & vaunted pedestal. Gold simply put is a “tool.” It is our belief that in this last generation we have come to forget the important financial role gold plays as an economic tool when economies turn sour & WallStreet is no longer the place to make money. 2006

And how is gold doing this week? The following represents an excellent update by a proficient gold analyst. Louis does a first-class job of informing us where gold is presently at & where we are heading.

“Lately, gold is decoupling from the Dollar and is rising in all currencies. The long term price chart is telling us A NEW PHASE OF THE BULL MARKET HAS BEGUN WHEN IT BROKE THROUGH $450 IN SEPTEMBER TO REACH NEW SUCCESSIVE 17-YEAR HIGHS (the HUI Index has yet to confirm this new phase, but I believe it will, and soon enough).”"..a mere five years ago, Gold was considered the laughing stock of the financial community." “…DEMAND IS GROWING AT TRIPLE DIGIT RATES.” “My belief is that the average person, who never previously considered gold as an investment, is just recently beginning to come to grips with some of the serious problems that lie ahead (concerns outlined in our previous Issue for instance).” By Louis Paquette, 11-2-2005